In Part One of this series about suffering, trauma, and drama, I broke down the definitions of each experience and discussed how they are interconnected.



Suffering doesn’t have to be a negative or positive experience; it’s completely subjective. But suffering is a relationship. It’s a relationship between you and the drama from your trauma.

The relationship that you have with your suffering is whatever you want to make of it. Suffering can offer a time of growth, or it can prevent you from being close to yourself. When suffering prevents you from being close to yourself, being grateful for other aspects of your life, and fully experiencing the present, your suffering becomes drama.

Drama is noise. It’s a collective of your past traumatized selves screaming for your present self’s attention. When you’re deep in drama, your past traumatized selves will also be in full control of your present self.


This isn’t to say that suffering and drama aren’t valid experiences, because they most definitely are. They just don’t need to consume your present being and steal your energy and ability to love yourself and your life.
You can put your energy into dwelling on what you can’t change in the past, or you can use your energy to celebrate what you have in the now.

Letting go of what is no longer taking place and what is no longer serving you in your present life is a process. When you let go of suffering and drama, you are making a declaration to your trauma that says, “You happened, and you are over. You do not need to affect my current life. I see you from a place of acceptance and growth. You are not me.”

Letting go is movement and change. To let go, you need to take action and make changes. You need to move yourself away from your past traumatized selves. Your past traumatized selves will only detach from you when you validate the pain they experienced and accept that your past traumatized selves are in the past. When you’re able to do this, you’re able to change how you view the trauma you experienced. The change is that the trauma is no longer here in the present; you moved it back to the past.

We have to acknowledge, love, and validate each of our past traumatized selves, put them into a room, and close the door. Because we are not our past.

From Part One:

Think of your being: your body, mind, and soul, as a pond. The only thing in this pond is clean, clear water. Consider your trauma as someone throwing a big rock into your pond. You didn’t deserve for this rock to get thrown into your perfect, untouched pond. You most certainly didn’t ask for this unwanted rock to show up in your pond. But your pond is not ruined. There’s a rock there that wasn’t there before, but you are still a pond, and you still hold clean, clear water. Drama is when you stop identifying as the pond, and become the rock, and you only focus on how this rock is here and it wasn’t there before. All of your energy and emotions become focused on the rock, and you forget that you are still a beautiful pond with the nicest, clean water. You are not your trauma. You are your body, mind, and soul that is made up of Pure, Divine Love. (See my post about The Ocean for more information about Pure, Divine Love.)

How these three experiences affect your present self is your choice. They are definitely intense experiences, and they can be life-altering. But they do not have to be you. They do not have to consume your energy, and they do not have to control your life.

And remember:
Thank you for reading, and love yourself first.


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